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Posted on Oct 31, 2011 at 07:03 PM

People get married for many reasons. Well, most of us want to get married purely for love. Others try to strike a balance between love and wealth. And some just marry the lavish lifestyle. A friend of mine confided in me about her marriage; finally admitting that she married her husband because she never thought she would ever meet a man who had almost everything she was looking for in man and the money to back it up. She fell in love with the lifestyle she knew the man was going to provide for her. The only problem was that she never felt any chemistry between them. Today, in her third year of marriage, nothing has changed. Just as she had hoped, the man is actually fulfilling the financial part of the relationship; and she has a very comfortable lifestyle. The problem is: she expects more than a good check from her husband. She wants the intimacy (which was scarce even during their heydays), she wants the man to be more sensitive to her needs, she wants the emotional attention women crave for. And her sudden demands for these things are actually affecting their marriage negatively. She feels unappreciated and the dude feels he isn’t good enough for her. After a lot of soul searching, she realized the other day that she got exactly what she wanted out of marriage: The lifestyle. So half-halfheartedly she told me she was gonna have to accept and live with the choices she made earlier. To be honest, I didn’t know what to tell. Yes she made that choice of forfeiting chemistry and emotional connection for money. But is it wrong for her to expect and believe she can get more out of her marriage? All your comments and advice will highly be appreciated.

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Posted on Sep 14, 2014 at 05:14 AM

I can conclude that most Chinese woman were taught to marry man with bigger paycheck and successful guy regardless of whether there's love or not. typical Chinese girl will always ask the guy how much his annual income , property , family background. money and wealth comes first , second the looks and race (is he caucassian or not) different standards apply to different race. Chinese girl can married anyone as long as the husband can provide her status and wealth, doesn't matter there's love or not in the first place. I myself is chinese but i really don't like this kind of culture in chinese culture. of course not all of them are like that, but sadly most of them are today. I believe in true love does have to base on this. As for your friend well, can't blame her for what happen, thats how it is going to affect her if she married base on her mind not her heart without knowing her own feeling.


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Posted on Dec 10, 2013 at 03:34 PM

Clearly this was a poor choice. She has only been maried for three years and yet she already has doubts. this is why divorce rates in the world today are so high. It is unfortunate but the marriage she has established probably wont last. We all have to take into consideration that with time our wants and need as well as our opinions and viewpoints change. As our lives change we change too. Ask yourself, "if I mary this person now wil I be happy years later?". If you hsve serious doubt from the begining its best to take a step back and give your situation some thought. There are many fish in the sea and one is just right for you!


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Posted on Nov 10, 2012 at 12:32 AM

no


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Posted on May 26, 2012 at 08:06 PM

She make a decision by her head, not her heart.

There is no right or wrong but you have to live with it as that's what your friend clearly were looking for. I don't think she can complain one bit since it isn't the guy's fault.


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Posted on Mar 04, 2012 at 07:59 PM

She got what she was hoping for in the beginning and now it's not enough....love is far more important and outlasts all money.

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Posted on Oct 31, 2011 at 07:05 PM

her chose is really right ?

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